Dr. van der Kolk stated, “The bodies of child-abuse victims are tense and defensive until they find a way to relax and feel safe.” When I started trying to take better care of myself, I decided to get a massage. The first time, and several after to be honest, were not very pleasant or relaxing. I would often still feel just as tense or even more so when it was over. The masseuse would keep saying, “You can relax now,” and I would be so confused because I thought I was relaxed.
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Come As You Are
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. is an exploration of the physiology and psychology of women’s sexual wellbeing.
Daring Greatly
I love Brené Brown. I’ve seen many of her talks and interviews. I host a discussion group for her podcast. She is such an inspiration. I really wanted to love this book, it just wasn’t for me. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great book. I was so excited to read it and have myContinue reading “Daring Greatly”
Chronically Offended
There will always be people looking for a reason to be offended. Let them.
Bird by Bird
Book Review: Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamott
The Deepest Well
Book Review: The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity